3 Easy Steps To Kick Negative Thinking

Do you ever get overwhelmed with life!? Everything starts to become stressful-even a commitment to do something fun creates a burden. You wake up and feel dread and anxiety about your day.  Well I've been there too and it SUCKS! That’s why I adopted a daily routine that has trained my brain to focus on and find the positive. Just to be clear-I don't wake up with sunshine and rainbows coming out of my butt-I have to WORK at it EVERYDAY to stay positive, motivated and in a great mental space. In this post, I’m going to give you my top tips for a mindset routine that will have you feeling better and better each day.

For a long time I thought that once you reached a that ideal mental state you could never go back-boy was I wrong! Just like with your body, you have to work out consistently to stay in shape. You can't just lift weights for a couple months and then stop and expect the muscle to just stick around forever. Nope-you have to workout at least a couple days a week to maintain what you worked so hard to get. Same principle applies to your mental game.

Ever feel like you’re addicted to negative thoughts? It’s because in a way, you are! Neurons that fire together, wire together. So, if your habit is to think “I’m not a morning person” and you’ve been saying that for the last 20 years, then that thought has a strong neural connection(picture a loop with electricity flowing through it-this is your belief stored in the body). So the challenge is to deprive the old neural connection(so it dies off) and create new pathways of positivity!

 So how do you do this? It’s simple!

Step 1: Become the watcher of your thoughts. Start to catch yourself saying something negative, or having a self deprecating thought.

Step 2: Now that you have made the unconscious, conscious you can start to make the change! Ask yourself, “What would I rather be saying instead?” For example, if the negative thought you want to kick is “I’m not a morning person” then you might want to say instead, “I enjoy waking up early”.

Step 3: Now comes the fun part! You mind is like a puppy that has been trained to think that negative thought and it’s good at it! Your job is to stop, and reel that puppy back in! So immediately after you say “I’m not a morning person” you STOP, say NO, “I enjoy waking up early, I enjoy waking up early, I enjoy waking up early”. Literally repeat the new thought 3 times for each time you think the negative one. Repeat, Repeat, Repeat until the old thought dies away and the new thought is your new norm.

In addition to the Steps above it’s important to feed your mind with positivity! You’re working on individual negative thoughts(yay!) but we must also keep you focused on what you want so that you get more of it.

Here’s my secret sauce to staying in an aligned state…

Throughout my day I am carefully curating what goes into my mind. I don’t watch the news, I get an email with an abridged version. I listen to positive personal development talks in the car, and I use affirmations to keep those positive neural pathways healthy and alive! So, if you are looking to improve your overall outlook on life you’ll want to do some housekeeping to be sure that the things you are reading, listening to and looking at and saying to yourself are focused on what you want.

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